PinnedMember-onlySelf Worth For Single PeopleWhat a concept. What even is self worth? Has anyone ever defined it for you? Have you ever defined it for yourself? If not, save any overwhelmed, stressed feelings for your next murder podcast, you won’t need them here. Right now, you’re in exactly the right place, at exactly the…Relationships17 min readRelationships17 min read
PinnedMember-onlyThe Insanity Of Being SingleThis sh*t is crazy. I dated a blonde boy once. Years ago. A tall blonde who sometimes wore glasses, knew how to build things, could keep up with me in conversation and used to play guitar in a band but now had a real job and a mortgage. I would…Relationships15 min readRelationships15 min read
PinnedMember-onlyStart Blaming Single Men, Right NowWe’re not single because of us. We’re single because of you. I read this piece. I hope you do, too. It’s beautifully written by Morgan Parker and so many single women will see themselves in her words and in her confusion as to why we are alone despite presenting objectively…Relationships8 min readRelationships8 min read
PinnedMember-onlyEnough Already. Where The F*ck Do I Meet My Husband?If this is you, we should talk. Everything’s fine until you’re tired. Until fatigue sets in, single women are on board for quite a lot. You’d be impressed by the very volume of dating advice, dating services, dating strategies, and dating coaches that single women will seek out before we’re…Relationships8 min readRelationships8 min read
May 23Member-onlyGeneration Y Was Never Meant For Online DatingI am Generation Y. Do not millennial me unless you’d like a kick in the teeth. I get that we’re ambiguous. Too young to be Gen X, too old to be Millennials. One article* found on The Atlantic can even be quoted as saying, “Generation Y is a fake, made-up…Dating10 min readDating10 min read
May 8Member-onlyIf You Don’t Understand Clueless, You Don’t Understand MeWritten for writers. Prove me wrong. I’ve never enjoyed the dismissal of girls. The assumption that our affinities and capabilities are somehow silly or less valuable than what boys and grown-ups do. The pinkification of a gender letting society know you don’t really have to take those seriously. …Writing4 min readWriting4 min read
May 4Member-onlySingle People Aren’t Bad At DatingStop assuming, and profiting from, an imaginary deficiency. The world likes to assume single people are dumb as a bag of jellybeans. You’ve felt it. The pervasive looking-down-upon that gets its power from the narrative that single people are lacking a partner. The story is we’re incomplete, and should thus…Dating6 min readDating6 min read
May 1Member-only5 Actual Ways To Make Friends In Real LifeAnd none of them are “work on yourself.” Hey Shani, What are your favorite ways to make friends as an adult? Typically when I’m asked this question, and I’m asked this question a lot, I tell people to start a podcast, and I’m only half kidding. I have kind of…Advice6 min readAdvice6 min read
Apr 21Member-onlyI Made A Reporter CryI didn’t mean to, geez. I didn’t mean to! Shit! I was recently contacted by a reporter who wanted to interview me about an essay I wrote called “Enough Already, Where The F*ck Do I Meet My Husband.” Her work will come out in a few weeks and I’ll link…Relationships2 min readRelationships2 min read
Apr 18Member-onlyStop Guilting Single People Into Dating ForeverIt’s not “giving up” if it’s saving your sanity. In January of 2019, I stopped dating. After ten years of being strung along by dating culture, I finally chose to stop buying the bullshit. If you’re currently single, particularly if you’re single over 30, leaving the dating space is probably…Relationships12 min readRelationships12 min read
