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As a writer, and very online person, I have a policy that’s helped me get through tough times like being bullied on the internet for no reason by a stranger. My policy is this: May whatever hurts my feelings make me money. I’ll be damned if someone who hits with his fingers has the power to ruin my day, just the opposite. He’s the thing that’s going to make it even more productive. There’s something about supplementing one’s income through the efforts of assholes that just feels great, you know? Let’s dive in!
And not a dating tip in the bunch.
Technically, the only thing I really have to say to single women is “enough with the dating advice, live your fucking life,” but I have time for a bit more depth this morning. Support for single women is something of a speciality of mine, but as with any area of expertise, I find myself repeating certain bits that are more important than others. There are countless things I want you to know, but I want you to get an A on the quiz, so I’ll keep this brief.
Yes, obviously text your…
Ma’am.
“Let’s jump on a quick call.” Has there ever been a more stomach-churning, eye-rolling, exasperating phrase uttered by human mouths? Why is this done? Why is it a commonly used term in the professional space? This isn’t something we do socially. If I asked a friend to “jump on a quick call,” they’d assume it was done in error and that I meant to send that text to a coworker probably named Steve. “Let’s jump on a quick call” is deceiving. We think it’s a professional act of responsibility but, it connotes laziness, a lack of clarity, and a complete…
And it is most definitely not your fault.
To begin, I take umbrage (what a fantastic word) with “still.” Still implies that you’re late, that you haven’t done something fast enough, and that’s bad. Last I checked, not only was there no globally mandated timeline for partnerships, but I’m pretty sure we have the capacity to love until we’re dead. Whatever time it is, you’ve got more, and “still” is a trash way of pressuring you into feeling like a loser. Now then, let’s get on with it.
This is a response to an article that was recently brought to…
A childhood hero. An adulthood muse.
You remember her. Fantastic hair, red glasses, a giant beaded purse that was always in view on her desk. She was the only adult in open-toe sandals in the entire building and you hung on her every word. I have aspired to an Art Teacher Chic aesthetic my entire life, and admittedly have always found it just out of reach. But as we enter autumn, where loose clothing goes to thrive, I feel like taking another bite of the teacher’s apple. Channel your rolls of butcher paper mounted to the wall, glass jars of…
Call it consumer research.
While I’m fairly sure I’ve written enough words to stretch around the earth at least a baker’s dozen times, none of them have yet been published in book form. That’s going to change in October, when my book comes out, but before then I’d like to give a tasting menu to anyone unfamiliar with my work.
I write content designed to change the narrative for single women. Thus far, we’ve been seen as sad, desperate, unfortunate, unwanted human pity parties, which is strange when you stop to consider that singlehood is the most free and possibility-filled…
That’s so many humans.
Believe me, I’d love to stage a photoshoot against a conveniently attractive public wall holding mylar balloons and wearing a dress inspired by cotton candy, but I know who I am, and who I’m not. Thanks for 15K followers you guys! I know we’re not supposed to feel validated by things like this but I was born before the internet much less before self care practices around social media were invented so let’s let me have my moment, hmm?
I started writing on Medium because I love to write and my access to writing had seemingly…
The social stress of being unable to explain what you do in a sentence.
Knots form in my stomach when I meet new people. I don’t have social anxiety, just a complicated career. A career that’s independent, creative, and often inexplicable within the span of time a new acquaintance is willing to devote themselves to hearing about it. Jobs are the “thing” about us, aren’t they? If we all end up in a true crime documentary someday, our professions will be listed right underneath our age and relation to the deceased. What do I do for a living? How much…
For Atta Girl writers and anyone who would like to be!
When I started Atta Girl, I wanted it to be more than a Medium publication that published content from writers. I wanted it to be a community where writers could connect, share advice, and gain a real benefit from contributing their content to a publication. So once a month (or so, forgive me about August there was a hurricane) I host a Group Zoom for any current or aspiring Atta Girl writers.
We talk about the content I want to include in Atta Girl, best practices for Medium in…
You’re about to get a lot of life back.
Are you afraid? Do you think I’m going to make you “swear off” dating? Read the headline again. I said “de-center” dating, not swear it off entirely. But that knob of fear in the pit of your stomach saying, “But..if I don’t date, I’ll never meet someone!” is precisely the reason I’m glad you’re here. You have more options in between swearing off dating and allowing it to consume your time, attention, and life. We just don’t talk about them very much.
There are obvious complaints about singlehood. No one to…
