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Will I Be Single Forever?

Shani Silver
7 min readJan 12, 2025
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I see this question a lot, mostly erupting from a state of panic. One-too-many Instagram engagement pics or awkward poses with sonogram photos happening to someone who isn’t you and boom. The fear, the jealousy, the rage, the helplessness, the exhaustion. The drive to grip the situation by the wheel and do something to end your singlehood as fast as possible. Only whatever you try to do, all the things you’ve ever tried to do, it doesn’t work. You’re still single, and still scared. You’re also asking the wrong question entirely.

It’s not about dating tips and tricks or Instagram dating gurus. It’s not about some magical change you can implement that will make your partner materialize in front of you. It’s not about asking yourself whether or not you’ll be single forever, because I believe that if you want relationships, you’ll have them. Maybe not on the timeline you want, but on a timeline that’s much more tailored to you. I mean think about it, have you ever asked yourself what’s so insane about what you want? It’s a relationship, not a yacht in Capri, most of the planet parters up — we’re not asking for much. The actual question isn’t “Will I be single forever?” Instead, it’s “Why is that all you can think about?” I’m not shaming you, I was you, for like a decade. There’s no shame here, not while we’re fixing shit.

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Shani Silver
Shani Silver

Written by Shani Silver

Author, podcaster. shanisilver@gmail

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