The Problem With Putting Yourself Last

For those who learned people-pleasing really early.

Photo by Shani Silver

This is for anyone raised to believe that putting yourself last was commendable. Those groomed to play small, to make life easier for others. We were praised for needing nothing, for forgoing what we really wanted in favor of what others wanted to give, and we were also rewarded for being “okay with” the least-good version of literally anything…