Stop Guilting Single People Into Dating Forever
It’s not “giving up” if it’s saving your sanity.
In January of 2019, I stopped dating. After ten years of being strung along by dating culture, I finally chose to stop buying the bullshit. If you’re currently single, particularly if you’re single over 30, leaving the dating space is probably something that sounds nice, but also terrifying. “If I don’t date, how will I meet someone?!” The thought echoes in our minds with a tone of terror, and yet we completely ignore all the dating we’ve already done without meeting someone so far. Dating doesn’t have to work for everyone, it’s a truth that’s hard to hear and even harder to turn into behavioral change, but your life’s happiness matters, so let’s give it a try. Four years ago I stopped dating, and today I’m exactly the same amount of single that I was when I was dating, only now I am exponentially more happy.
If you’re ready to acknowledge that your happiness matters more than whether or not you’re seeing someone, let’s go.
Leaving dating culture is about more than just deleting your dating apps (but definitely do that). It’s about changing the way you think and feel about being single so that you no longer feel compelled to redownload them. The idea of not dealing with modern dating’s bullshit anymore sounds amazing, but unless you get to the root of why you were…
