“He’ll Be Worth What I’ve Been Through” Isn’t A Dating Strategy

Shani Silver
8 min readSep 25, 2022

Single women don’t have to live in service of someday.

Photo by Shani Silver

I used to live in hell. Cozy place, great amenities. For me, hell was a decade of “looking,” and if you’re currently single over the age of about 29 or so, you know full well what I mean by looking. From my late 20s to mid-30s, if I was waiting in a line or watching television, I was also swiping…