Enough Already. Where The F*ck Do I Meet My Husband?

Shani Silver
8 min readNov 17, 2021

If this is you, we should talk.

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Everything’s fine until you’re tired. Until fatigue sets in, single women are on board for quite a lot. You’d be impressed by the very volume of dating advice, dating services, dating strategies, and dating coaches that single women will seek out before we’re no longer willing to go along with this shit. Everything’s fine until you’re tired. And at some point…maybe a year, maybe five years into a single woman’s actively dating life that hasn’t moved the needle on her relationship status even a hair, a new mood takes hold, and it has no more patience for your dating advice. That mood is: Enough already. Where the fuck do I meet my husband?

Enough. When is it enough? When have you taken enough advice, rewritten enough profiles, retaken enough photos, gone on enough first dates god knows—when have we done enough work in the single space to just meet someone already? When you hit this place, this frustration and exhaustion fueled by years of unanswered effort, you are my audience, and I’m so happy you’re here. You did “enough” the day you were born, no further effort was required of you after that for the love you inherently deserve as a human being. I’m sorry we were groomed to believe something different.