Couples Don’t Need To Be Miserable For Single People To Be Happy

Kill the jealousy. Save the singles.

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  • A couple walks down the street holding hands, and a single person feels angry.
  • Someone gets engaged, and a single person feels deeply sad and lacking.
  • Someone gets married, and a single person feels like nothing good is ever going to come for them.
  • Singles take comfort in memes like, “well, at least I don’t have to worry about someone cheating on me!”
  • Singles see confirmation that a couple’s relationship has ended, and feel instantly good inside.
  • Singles see a holiday photo of a couple, and in order to feel better about themselves, they imagine that in real life, the couple argues all the time and is unhappy—because we only see manufactured perfection on social media, right?
  • A couple walks down the street holding hands, and a single person remembers she/he/they can be happy now, not only after they have this additional person, because they themselves are completely whole.
  • Someone gets engaged, and a single person says to themselves, “I’m so happy someone I know is happy. That’s so good to see.”
  • Someone gets married, and a single person is reminded that partnership is possible. “It happened to them, they’re not “better”* than me, therefore partnership can happen to me, too.”

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NPR once called me a humor essayist, let’s go with that. Host of A Single Serving Podcast. shanisilver[at]gmail

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