A Self Kindness Shopping List For Single Women

Shani Silver
8 min readMay 18, 2022

Self care isn’t selfish.

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We’re so quick to show up for others, but have you shown up for yourself recently? I mean really when’s the last time you did something for yourself that didn’t fall under bare minimum, essential needs? Self Kindness has had terrible PR representation since the dawn of humanity, give or take. It’s been poorly branded as “selfish” or “self-centered,” and all those labels do is keep people like us constantly benefitting others while we wrongly assume it’s somehow shitty to benefit ourselves. It isn’t. You aren’t here to live a life that only serves others, you’re allowed do things in service of your own wellbeing, too. Not only allowed, encouraged.

You’ll find no selfish-shaming here, just the opposite. This is a space where single people put themselves first and recognize that it doesn’t make us selfish, it makes us good guardians of our own wellbeing. Because honestly, who the hell else is helping? The way I like to think about self-kindness is that it’s me taking care of future me, and I like future me very much. There are so many small (and large) ways you can tell yourself, through simple acts of care, that you matter, that you’re worth effort, and that your wellbeing is just as important as literally everyone else’s. So here we go:

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Hair Clips/Ties That Actually Work

When’s the last time you refreshed your hair ties? Don’t lie to me! If you’re currently down to one claw clip with two teeth missing or one scrunchie with the elastic showing you are hereby instructed to fix the situation! We don’t need to settle for almost-broken things, especially when we use them every single day. Be nicer to yourself than that.

Hair Clips, $6.03

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The Sink De-Stressor

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but the area around your sink is stressing you out. If every time you put a bottle down four more fall over next to it, it’s time to organize your…

Shani Silver

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