54 Simple Pleasures Of Single Life

Shani Silver
4 min readAug 28, 2020

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Single life is, culturally speaking, about what you don’t have. Every song, movie, Medium post, etc. is about the longing and lack of singlehood. And while those feelings are valid, they’re not our only options. I don’t think the sweetness of singlehood is celebrated enough. As evidenced by the fact that you had no idea singlehood was even sweet in the first place. Thus below, the juicy bits. The delicious, inhale-able moments of singlehood too often missed when we’re heads-down in a hunt for partnership. Give yourself a break, look up, and enjoy. Know that enjoying single days is possible.

The List:

  1. Always getting the middle cinnamon roll, or the corner brownie.

2. The feeling of accomplishment after solo-assembling furniture designed to be put together by two.

3. Without warning, really needing to listen to The Judds back catalog.

4. Successfully getting a bug to fly out of your home.

5. There is no “side” of the bed. There is the bed.

6. Knowing that your personal spice tolerance is the only one that matters.

7. Picking up and holding a warm cat who has just woken up from a nap.

8. Tossing salad together in a gigantic bowl and transferring it to a smaller, prettier bowl before eating.

9. Admiring flowers you bought for yourself on the coffee table and deeply understanding how they bring more joy than those sent by lovers, times ten.

10. Pet. Costumes.

11. Popping open a bottle of champagne that is all yours to enjoy.

12. Cracking open a new book and reading it uninterrupted for as long as you like.

13. Whatever porn you want, whenever you want.

14. Wearing comfy pants that should have met the business end of a trash can, perhaps yeas ago.

15. Going to sleep and waking up at any time you see fit without having to justify your actions to anyone else.

16. Repeating favorite songs shamelessly, and eternally.

17. Bodily function freedom.

Shani Silver

Author, podcaster. shanisilver@gmail