17 Things Single People Are NOT DOING In 2022

Shani Silver
6 min readJan 3, 2022

Absolutely not.

Photo by the author, taken in her room at the TWA Hotel at JFK Airport.

There are a lot of “shoulds” to single life. People love to “should” all over us. You should try this app or this dating coach or you should go to that party because you never know who will beeeeee there! It’s all sugar-coated nonsense stuffed down the throats of single people regardless of whether or not we’re hungry. But we don’t have to should. We don’t have to anything. We are actually in charge of our own lives, and there’s nothing less savvy, smart, or worthy about those lives simply because we haven’t “met someone” in a world of couples who met by accident but still think you’re doing dating wrong.

So here are 17 things single people will NOT be participating in during 2022, because we simply don’t have to. Everyone should respect our decisions.

1 — Thinking That Being Single & Dating Are The Same Thing: Hear me when I say that being single doesn’t suck, dating does. And too often we let dating get off scot-free while we bemoan how much we don’t want to be single anymore. It’s not that we don’t want to be single anymore, with all of its freedom, lack of compromise, and total absence of “uuhhh, I dunno, where do you want to go to dinner?” It’s that we just don’t want to date anymore, and we think we have to date until we “find someone.” We don’t.

2 — Dating On Eggshells: In 2022, we aren’t giving a DAMN about who we “scare away.” We are understanding that if someone is scared away, GOOD. Anyone who can be scared away should scurry off into the hills as quickly as possible so that we are saved the burden of wasted time. Do you honestly want someone who is around because you’re being super careful not to “scare them away?” Does that sound like a comfortable way to live to you?

3 — Letting People Find Entertainment In Our Pain: Our “horror stories” are not there to delight people over dinner. Painful, frustrating, disappointing experiences that we’ve had in the dating space or in our singlehood are not entertainment, they’re not someone else’s funny story. The next time someone asks you to tell them a dating horror story, I challenge you to ask them to tell the story of the last fight they had with their partner where they thought they might break up. If they can ask you, you can ask them—or we could all just respect each…